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The three stories that I have chose to discuss similarities and differences are based on our third blog post: gender. Throughout all three of the gender stories I have picked including my own, we strive to be the perfect image of a female. This seems to be shown through perfect makeup, dresses, body suits, heels, etc., a normative narrative at that. The three stories I have chosen show a time in a females life where they believe they have preformed their gender in a perfect way.
The first story I have chosen is Tori’s. This story describes her graduation day, thinking back on it and how even though she may have slightly stumbled in her heels at home, she looked in the mirror and felt perfect. Tori’s story captures the normative narrative that all girls on graduation day are expected to spend a ‘fortune to get done’. Most girls pay an expensive price for their dream dress, hair, makeup, and nails when it seems like boys only need to pay for their suits and a nice pair of dress shoes for the exact same occasion. The next story that caught my attention is Jocelyn’s. In her gender story she is also getting ready for her day, not graduation, but the first day of grade nine. A normative narrative is also brought to the attention of the reader in this story. Jocelyn explains how it was her chance to recreate herself by putting on makeup with the skills she had picked up from YouTube over that summer. These steps taken are also steps that you would not normally see a boy take on his first day of school. Lastly is my gender story. Throughout my post I explained how girls filled the dance hall, making it seem as though girls are expected to dance, not boys. When competition season rolled around we would put on your poofy dresses, red lipstick (along with all other makeup products, and fake eyelashes) to show our femininity.
All three of these stories shared and represented normative narratives to relate to our gender. From the way we feel about ourselves in the morning, to sports, and the routine we all took on our graduation day. This may be examples of the opposite procedures we take based on our gender. Being examples of how us as women are expected to dress, how we are expected to wear makeup on a regular basis, and even be part of certain sports that relate to the way a female body is perceived.
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As these three stories become analyzed through there similarities and differences we see the power of gender and how normative narratives affect our every day lives. When you think of a female what do you think of it? Then switch to what the first narratives that come to your mind about males. What are they?
Coming back to Tori’s story she explains how she felt looking into the mirror located in her bedroom when she felt the most beautiful, just how she had hoped to in the days leading up to it. This also goes against the normative narrative that people believe that women are insecure within their own bodies no wonder how they really looked. How women always compare themselves to each other or never feel good enough. Tori continues on to say ‘There was not one part of me that did not feel perfect. I was the definition of a perfect girl.’ This quote shows the audience that their is strength in confidence and being a women, when others believe that only men are emotionally strong. It is portrayed that women are gentle, emotional, and soft when men are strong and confident within themselves and their decisions. Breaking the normative that this is the way our genders are perceived, there is more power in a women’s confidence than there is in a mans word. In my post about gender I described how it felt to see my body at every angle three days a week, being compared to others while doing so. This is something that is often not seen as much with men, comparison that is. Finding confidence within yourself at the best of times has been portrayed through all three of the posts mentioned.
The first day of school after summer vacation is a day for you to prove your growth and your new found skills that you picked up over the summer, just like Jocelyn. Just like Tori and I both had, this was a moment for her to feel beautiful and truly believe in the beauty of change. She finds a power within herself to acknowledge the beauty within herself stating: ‘I am ready for high school while feeling like the perfect, beautiful young woman I am.’ Her story breaks the normative narrative that we need a man to feel worthy, beautiful, and have strength. When in this cause a girl going to her first day of high school finds confidence within herself, worth, and power. This is how I felt whenever I would walk through the doors of my dance hall, as if the power that the music and movement gave me could help me move mountains and feel beautiful just as I was in that very moment. Pure, balanced, and confident.
Through the posts I have chosen I have learned the power of true self-love, motivation, and confidence. Between Tori, Jocelyn, and I we have all met our moments face to face for when we feel as though the world is ours and nothing can change that. As females we break the boundaries of normative narratives finding what helps us feel the best, and showing that we are not just gentle and pure, but are strong and powerful as well. We are able to disrupt the normative narrative of femininity.